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Long Distance Relationships - smith21 - 09-20-2005
hey guys, i'm getting opinions from everyone that i know about this, simply becuase i'm thinking of getting into one, but am not sure about it. I met this really awsome girl about 3 weeks ago when i went down south to visit family. Well, i ended up really getting to know this girl as it was a good friend of my couzins girlfriend. Now, i'm starting to talk to this girl more often, well, lots can be considered an explanation of how much we talk. Anywyas, i'm not sure if i should try and go further with this, becuase my couzing girlfriend said that she liked me when i was down visiting, and we've seemed to get closer as of late. Should i try for a long distance relationship, or go local?
Long Distance Relationships - schade - 09-20-2005
the relationship i'm in right now is long distance .. and that's how it started out .. when we hooked up it was a week b4 she was going away to school in north bay. But we managed to make it work over the past year .
It all depends on the people .. if your willing to make the drives to see eachother and be able to go weeks without seeing eachother, then yes, go for it.
i've never had a relationsihp that has been less than a 45 min drive between eachother .. distance can be good
Long Distance Relationships - brucktown - 09-20-2005
smith21,Sep 20 2005, 01:58 AM Wrote:hey guys, i'm getting opinions from everyone that i know about this, simply becuase i'm thinking of getting into one, but am not sure about it. I met this really awsome girl about 3 weeks ago when i went down south to visit family. Well, i ended up really getting to know this girl as it was a good friend of my couzins girlfriend. Now, i'm starting to talk to this girl more often, well, lots can be considered an explanation of how much we talk. Anywyas, i'm not sure if i should try and go further with this, becuase my couzing girlfriend said that she liked me when i was down visiting, and we've seemed to get closer as of late. Should i try for a long distance relationship, or go local?
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don't do it, especially this early into a relationship. Cus if noone wants to make the move you will have wasted a lot of time........my gf of 2 years just moved back to BC to be with her family......we both decided that if someone else comes along then to take advantage of the situation and experience life, cus if we are meant to be together we will get together in the end
Long Distance Relationships - darkpuppet - 09-20-2005
women want relationships?
rhetorical question, I know they don't
Long Distance Relationships - habmann - 09-20-2005
Guess it really depends on how far away she really is. Like i mean if its a few hours drive prolly not a big deal, but across the country prolly gonna be hard to make it work. My only advice is take it slow and just see what happens. The great thing about long distance relationships is it really forces the 2 people to talk to each other and focus on the actual relationship, not just the "other stuff".
Long Distance Relationships - D-Dub - 09-20-2005
darkpuppet,Sep 19 2005, 10:10 PM Wrote:women want relationships?
rhetorical question, I know they don't
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I know where are these women from?? :huh:
Long Distance Relationships - Raine - 09-20-2005
My relationship (going on 3 yrs) started long distance. No regrets :P There is the occasional "I MOVED HERE FOR YOU!" fight, but meh! comes with the territory
Long Distance Relationships - FocusTunerzx3 - 09-20-2005
Long Distance = bad choice in my experience. Especially if you dont see the other person to often or if one is visiting the other more often. It just bad news all around. Get out while you still can.
Long Distance Relationships - OAC_Sparky - 09-20-2005
I think long distance relationships are awesome.
The farther my ex-wife lives away from me, the better the relationship.
:D
Long Distance Relationships - torradan - 09-20-2005
schade,Sep 19 2005, 10:08 PM Wrote:It all depends on the people .. if your willing to make the drives to see eachother and be able to go weeks without seeing eachother, then yes, go for it.
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This is the major factor here. There is a LOT of sacrifice for the both of you to maintain the relationship. A lot of time on the road, a lot of kms/miles of driving, wear and tear on the car. Those are pretty minor points, but still something to take into consideration. Its really up to the both of you, to see if you can do it. Get to know her better before you commit to anything, and make sure she is "worth it" down the pipe.
How far away does she live? Does she enjoy driving? Are you ready for dreaded WINTER? Because visits will become less frequent in the winter because the weather can sometimes get lousy. Last winter, we had a 2 month stretch where we didn't see each other because when we planned to be together, mother nature would be a bitch and throw a storm our way and ruin our plans.
I've been doing this since July 2004, and so far, aside from sometimes being lonely and whatnot, its not bad. The arguments can sometimes be bad, since we do our talking over email/phone during the week, and its just "not as easy to argue and get your point across" without the body language being there.
But hey, on the plus side, at least you both live in the same country. If it boils down to one of you moving to be closer to each other, at least you can with ease, unlike my situation where whoever would be moving would need to deal with immigration to be able to live/work since she is in Canada, and I'm in the US. (Starting to look more and more like I'll be heading to Canada).
Is it friday yet? *sigh* Sometimes being apart sucks, but gives you something to look forward to. I get pretty excited even after over a year when I start my drive up there. When I pull up in front of her house, she is always sitting there waiting for me with a beer and a hug & kiss at the ready. Same for when she comes here. (yeah ok, that was sappy, but so what! hehe)
Ok I'm done blabbering, have to get ready for work!
Long Distance Relationships - darkpuppet - 09-20-2005
^^--- 'mericans stealing our women! :P
In all seriousness, long distance is up to you... the problem here might be two-fold. You're both young right? and you're pretty new to the relationship.
This doesn't bode well as absence doesn't make the heart grow fonder in such new relationships, and once the honeymoon period is over, I think it could get a bit tough to remain loyal.
Heck, you're asking if we think it's a good idea for you to pursue a long distance relationship. This is the 1st sign that you're not immediately certain about it... and I wouldn't get into it unless I was one of two things. Certain of it or desperate. If you're young, and you're not absolutely certain, you could save yourselves both a lot of grief now before you put effort into something that won't work out.
Now, honestly, I'm just giving my opinion on the situation based on what you've provided, and my own observations. However, different strokes for different folks, and you have to do what works for you. Everyone should be able to pursue their little piece of happiness, but make sure you take stock of the full situation...
Long Distance Relationships - NOS2Go4Me - 09-20-2005
I dunno... I started a long-distance relationship more than a few years ago that led to 2 1/2 years of PAIN. Thankfully it ended when it did, otherwise I would have been led to Meford levels of funny farm-ness.
I just think that you need to actually spend real time together in the early goings-on of the relationship to see if there's anything meaningful worth pursuing. A phone is like the internet, you can't see who's getting what kind of action on the other end.
Remember that commercial for video messaging where the guy catches his G/F with another guy?
Long Distance Relationships - Flofocus - 09-20-2005
I was in a long distance relationship.
Andrea lived in London, I lived here in Ottawa. We did that for a year and a half.
going on 3 years now.
3 long fawkin years.
Hahaha, I kid. :lol:
In long distance relationships, the old saying "Whatever doesnt kill you will only make you stronger" really appliues to the relationship.
Long Distance Relationships - darkpuppet - 09-20-2005
^^-- should be "whatever doesn't kill you, leaves you scarred"
Long Distance Relationships - FociPhil - 09-21-2005
NO, you do it and ill punch you in the face when your sleeping
Long Distance Relationships - Raine - 09-21-2005
FociPhil,Sep 20 2005, 10:48 AM Wrote:NO, you do it and ill punch you in the face when your sleeping
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What a horrible threat! That's so very mean!
Long Distance Relationships - FociPhil - 09-21-2005
Well i wont actually...but thats how strongly i feel about it.
Someone said that to me once, and i laughed...thought it was a goodie.
Long Distance Relationships - Focused - 09-21-2005
i've never seen one work for any length of time
Long Distance Relationships - 2001 ZTS - 09-21-2005
Depends on how far your willing to travel for dirty sex. If it's the only way to get some because you're butt ugly and/or disfigured then go for it. If there are options closer to home then it's all about conseravtion of effort.
The only time long distance relationships are useful is in order to reduce the chances of getting caught when you have multiple relationships. ;)
Yes puppet there are such things as 'multiple'. :rolleyes: :lol:
Long Distance Relationships - darkpuppet - 09-21-2005
2001 ZTS,Sep 20 2005, 01:42 PM Wrote:Yes puppet there are such things as 'multiple'. :rolleyes: :lol:
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I never worked on a boat or a train, so I wouldn't know. God has me wired for monogamy. Talk about cursed...
an ugly fat guy wired for monogamy.... what are the chances of starting life with THAT little karma?