Hi, Guest
11-15-2006, 08:20 AM
For those of you that know me well, I have a little issue in my family that just grew to huge proportions about 20 min. ago.
See here for the run-down.
http://www.focuscanada.net/forum/index.php...38&hl=my+future
Well it happened. I got the call the this afternoon, my brother-in-law is gonna marry his cow of a girlfriend. He asked her last night.
:(
I'm sick to my stomach and scared for him. I love him like a brother and don't know what to do.
He told me over the phone all excited and I just sat there silent....All I could say was way to go!
No congrats no nothing....It was probably one of the top 3 most akward conversations of my 30 years of living.
I spoke to him about her a while ago after one of her abusive trips on him for staying at my place over night last summer washing cars and drinking beer. I told him out right I didin't like her, and was worried about his mental well-being. I planned on talking to him about her so I was sure to tip back about 18 beers before I had the guts to confront him about it.
Now it's at a whole other level, he's marrying an abusive cow with issues of her own. Gawd, I'm trembeling here. This woman has made comments at the family dinner table that have made me nearly choke. If Jennifer were to EVER say anything like the things she does about me in front of my family....Oh man, I have no idea what my sister and Brother would do. She puts him down, calls him stupid, bosses him around, calls him every 15 min. if they're apart etc....
I'm afraid she's trapped him. She's currently in school (law) at Laurier in Ottawa and has another 2 years or so to go, he's working full-time at Swish in Ottawa. He moved out there to be with her while she was in school because she didn't think it would be right having him live here while she was out there for that whole time...jusus. He pays the bills, cleans the house etc.... while she chomps at the bit for this and that. It makes me sick to be in the same f u cking room as her. I drink when she's around...heavy, that's how bad it is. Andrew and I are VERY close. and if she's around, booze is the only way I can cope. I pull out the RYE...and I'm not allowed to drink RYE.
WTF does a brother do in this situation? Do I call him and tell him I don't agree with it? is it my place to say, is it my buisiness to get involved?
I'm positive I'll be in his wedding party.... How can I stand there and vouch for a marriage I don't believe is right???
His mother isn't particularily fond of her, his brother can't stand her either, and Jennifer has mixed emotions about her....And me...well I out right HATE the woman. I said the word, And I don't use it often. His mother said, "I either accept it...or I lose a son" WOW. I hope they didn;t say the same when I asked Jennifer. :blink:
How do I stop my best friend from making the worst mistake of his life?????
Sorry guys...Anthony is choked up here, confused, and at a loss of words. :(
See here for the run-down.
http://www.focuscanada.net/forum/index.php...38&hl=my+future
Well it happened. I got the call the this afternoon, my brother-in-law is gonna marry his cow of a girlfriend. He asked her last night.
:(
I'm sick to my stomach and scared for him. I love him like a brother and don't know what to do.
He told me over the phone all excited and I just sat there silent....All I could say was way to go!
No congrats no nothing....It was probably one of the top 3 most akward conversations of my 30 years of living.
I spoke to him about her a while ago after one of her abusive trips on him for staying at my place over night last summer washing cars and drinking beer. I told him out right I didin't like her, and was worried about his mental well-being. I planned on talking to him about her so I was sure to tip back about 18 beers before I had the guts to confront him about it.
Now it's at a whole other level, he's marrying an abusive cow with issues of her own. Gawd, I'm trembeling here. This woman has made comments at the family dinner table that have made me nearly choke. If Jennifer were to EVER say anything like the things she does about me in front of my family....Oh man, I have no idea what my sister and Brother would do. She puts him down, calls him stupid, bosses him around, calls him every 15 min. if they're apart etc....
I'm afraid she's trapped him. She's currently in school (law) at Laurier in Ottawa and has another 2 years or so to go, he's working full-time at Swish in Ottawa. He moved out there to be with her while she was in school because she didn't think it would be right having him live here while she was out there for that whole time...jusus. He pays the bills, cleans the house etc.... while she chomps at the bit for this and that. It makes me sick to be in the same f u cking room as her. I drink when she's around...heavy, that's how bad it is. Andrew and I are VERY close. and if she's around, booze is the only way I can cope. I pull out the RYE...and I'm not allowed to drink RYE.
WTF does a brother do in this situation? Do I call him and tell him I don't agree with it? is it my place to say, is it my buisiness to get involved?
I'm positive I'll be in his wedding party.... How can I stand there and vouch for a marriage I don't believe is right???
His mother isn't particularily fond of her, his brother can't stand her either, and Jennifer has mixed emotions about her....And me...well I out right HATE the woman. I said the word, And I don't use it often. His mother said, "I either accept it...or I lose a son" WOW. I hope they didn;t say the same when I asked Jennifer. :blink:
How do I stop my best friend from making the worst mistake of his life?????
Sorry guys...Anthony is choked up here, confused, and at a loss of words. :(