[darkpuppet]

I was in a similar position... tho the ex wasn't quite so demeaning all the time. Lucky for me, she did what she forbade me to do.. went out with coworkers (she was afraid I'd end up cheating on her).. and she cheated on me.

Oftentimes, I find that people hold tightest the control they don't have for themselves.

Anyways, all you can do is have a chat with him.. it's time for the family to stand up before it's honestly too late. But don't address it in too negative a way... point out your concerns about her, and how you're concerned for him and his happiness. That things don't improve after marriage, and that marriage is forever... that if he's truly happy about the way she treats him, that's his perrogative, but how is she going to be when they have kids and whatnot as well. In time, it's not just about his own wellbeing, but for the wellbeing of their kids.

That if he's the least bit unhappy and can't find a way out now, it's only going to get harder later on.

But who knows, maybe he's truly happy with her. has he never mentioned concerns about her treatment of him? I mean, there are some people that are just happy that way... but if he's had concerns, you can at least move forward with that.

Another thing.. since it's nearly an inevitability she's going to ruin his other friendships and family relationships, it may be time to start speaking up when she's around. Don't let her mistreatment of him around yourself or family go unchallenged.

Good luck man... invite her and her friends over, I'll come over and we can make a game of it.