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Interesting to read this because I'm in a similar situation with my sister. She started dating a guy she met on the internet. It's not like he's a total asshat like your bro in laws girl is a biatch but he's a total loser with nothing going for him. He works a deadend job that pays very low, he's a total goof, has no ambition and it's been rubbing off on my sister. The guy is 36 and has a s*** box car, no money in the bank, rents a crappy apartment because it's all he can afford and he's creepy as all get out. My sis owns a nice condo, is a manger for Sears travel of 2 locations, used to have lots of ambition, went to the gym regularly (she's a very large girl and at one had lost over a 100 pounds, since starting to see this useless waste of skin she's gained about 80 of it back).

First time I met him, I was just like WTF!!! I didn't even want to shake his hand. The rest of the family thought the same thing. My uncle from Scotland said it just perfectly, "What in the bloody hell are you thinking? Jesus Mary and Joseph almighty!"

My best friend Amanda, who is pretty open to people was so creeped out by the guy that she actually sat on my lap and pressed herself so close to me it was inbelievable. It was the middle of the summer and she had the shivers and goose bumps.

I talked to my sister about it and she just got upset and yelled and screamed at me calling me every name under the sun for not liking him. This was only about a month after they started dating. She didn't talk to me for 4 months. The rest of the family felt the same nut didn't have the balls to say anything because they didn't want her to do the same to them.

I've confronted her 2 more times about to basically the same effect. She has always been the one in our family who never would yell at another family member especially our parents but a few months ago she started really talking down to my parents, treating them like they were old and senile, kinda like this twat talks to his mother. When she got called on it by my dad she freaked out, and told him that if wasn't going to do what she said then she'd put him into a home and he wouldn't be part of her wedding.

When he came to the house to ask my dad's permission to ask for engagement, I was there. My dad called me through and said "Gary's going to do something incredible for his birthday tomorrow, guess what" My answer "Jump out of a plane without a parachute." "No he's asking your sister to marry him." I just walked out of the house and left in a cloud of smoke. My dad called me a while later to come back and see him about. When my mom got home and my dad told her, the neighborhood could hear her scream in disbelief, our one neighbor thought there'd been a death in the family the way she screamed and then curled up crying.

He asked me to be his best man because he only has 2 friends and he didn't think they'd do it for him. I had to say no to that. So I'm dj'ing the wedding and I don't even want to do that. As perfectsaiyan said, I'd like to stand up and say something during the ceremony because that is a contestion to the wedding and I believe that it must not be completed and pronounced as a marriage if someone at the wedding contests it.

I'm at the point that I'm ready to take the f***er out, get him tanked and drop him off at a massage parlour for a happy ending and pay extra to be able to take a couple pictures to send to my sister. Hell, my mom didn't even laugh when I said that to her, she just sat there and went "Hmm." 2 days later she asked how much I thought it would cost.

Like you Anthony, I don't what to do. I also don't know what to suggest except for to talk to him because I was engaged and a friend of mine told me how wrong I was. I told her to screw off. Well she was right and now she's my best friend in the world, it was mighty hard to do but I went crawling back to her to ask for my friendship back. She told me it was the hardest thing she ever did was deciding to talk to me about it, even harder than her decision to leave her husband.

Good luck man, I really hope it works out for you.