[oldeguy]

Just my two cents worth.

in regards to your 3 year plan, and her 1 year plan, unfortunately, women, no matter how "cool" and "understanding" towards the "inner child" in us men, they are, are in a rush, knowing that their "best before dates" are getting closer every day. If you two have the same plan, other than the timeline, either propose a timeline compromise or prioritize the two plans, to make one, ( if you are so inclined )

Although I have no real experience with the type of work you are doing, maybe, if you can, without jeopardising your employement standing, refuse to join the team that you are being asked to join, stating diplomatically, if possible, the reasons why.

One more little piece of advice....from an olde guy....stop looking at what could have been, look at what you have, there are people out there who are in worse shape, emotionally, physically and financially than most of us. :o Most of them drive 93 Civics :blink: