[2001 ZTS]

Friends old & new:

Thanks for kind words and thoughts.

Just so everyone knows it will likely end up being a separation agreement and parenting plan not a full out divorce. Lawyers will be involved but it shouldn't require the Court.

Being served was a surprise but not totally un-expected. FYI, it is not a fidelity issue on either my or wifes part rather, in the simplest terms, she was more interested in being a "mother" than a "wife".

To me there are 3 people in the family and to her there are only 2, herself and the child. I stuck it out out of duty longer than any one else would have to the detriment of my health/well being. In short I never had the grey hair and extra pounds and stress I do now, it is not due to age or work. Some of you have known me for years and have seen the damage.

As well, anyone who is married knows everything comes back to money and there are only two types of people out there: savers and spenders.

I was a "saver" but as part as a savings plan I included goals and rewards for doing so (ex/ make max RRSP contribution in 2004 then buy ProDrive wheels for WRX (the are "in the mail" BTW). She on the other hand was a spender/borrower.

You are reading the words of a guy who saved enough to buy a loaded Focus and WRX in cash between when I found out she was pregnant in June 2000 and May 2003. She is in debt for income tax and makes more money than I do.

If you are or are considering marriage you must both be the same, spenders or savers or never shall the two meet. NEVER forget this and take the time to evaluate whatever relationship you are in now.

I won't say much else because there is a kid involved and he is my only priority.

Thanks again,

Andrew