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meford4u,Dec 1 2005, 01:50 PM Wrote:I am not so sure about this one.  How long have you been dating?  She may be expecting the big one and for you to give her this ring without a promise at Christmas, a highly emotional and volitile time of year?  It may be a big high that turns into a big "If he loved me he would of asked me to marry him". So what's wrong with our relationship?  Saga/drama.
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Yep.

Do it privately. If you've been going out a long time be prepared for some fallout because, like what Meford said, women are emotional that way and they'll expect it to be the big one. You kinda picked a bad occasion to give her this, many couples get engaged at Christmas, and when you're house-hopping at the relatives she'll have to do the explanatory "It's not an engagement ring" disclaimer.

Valentine's Day is another no-no. Something like this I would give at a Birthday or "Dating Anniversary" because it's at an oddball, non-formal time when the women aren't gathered around psycho-analyzing their gifts and each other's. I've been married twice ( and still married to my new wife) and TRUST me they do this.

If it's not "THE ring" I would stick to other types of jewelry for Christmas and Valentine's Day.

And another note. If and when it is THE one, (and this goes out to other guys in that predicament) DO NOT make that her ONLY or even PRIMARY Christmas gift. Think of it this way -- you know how it would suck to have your birthday on Boxing Day and everyone kinda burning you with the "It's a Christmas/Birthday gift" thing, and you get ripped off? Same thing.

When my wife and I got engaged, I proposed a week before Christmas, and on Christmas gave her the normal, average Christmas haul. That way, we were already "recovered" from the fvckfest and we could deal with everyone else.

Christmas is Christmas, and your engagement is a whole other event. Don't double dip. If she doesn't notice, her friends will and will point it out.

Good luck.